Do you want to know the most frustrating question in the world?

“Why can’t I just…?”

How often do you ask yourself that?

Why can’t I just ask for a raise?

Why can’t I just talk to that girl?

Why can’t I just feel more confident?

Why can’t I just stop getting in my own way?

Frustrating, right?

You ask yourself the ultimate “Why can’t I just…” question and you feel something odd.

You want to pretend that you don’t know the answer.

That’s why you asked the question in the first place.

The problem is you always know the answer.

The answer is always obvious and that’s what scares you because life would be easier if you didn’t know the answer.

The answer always comes down to you and who you want to be. That answer sucks.


It means that all of the responsibility is on you.

It means that you truly get to control what you do and how you do it.

That means you control your life to the point that you get to decide if you are happy or sad.

If you are satisfied or crave more.

But there is a bright side to the answer being “you”.

It means that you can change everything whenever you want.

It means that you get to decide if change happens right now or 10 years from now.

And change doesn’t happen until you decide you want it to.

That’s always the first step and that’s the step people think they can skip.

You don’t get to go from “Why can’t I…” to “…it’s all mine” without deciding that it’s time to change.

Is that scary?

Yes, but it’s even more exciting because the moment for you can be right now.

So is it?